Mother’s Day Lost

Ryan and mom

Mother’s Day Lost! Vaccine could have prevented it!

Another Mother’s Day is about to come and go. It’s 3 a.m. in the morning and once again sleep is replaced with tears, memories and another dreaded Mother’s Day lost. Because of a vaccine preventable form of meningococcal meningitis, I face another one without my only child’s voice to speak his love, his arms to hug and his life to share.

As I sit here and write, my mind goes back to a time when a tiny little baby boy would climb into my lap, bottle and blanky in hand and say, “sing me Elvis mommy.” I would sing Elvis songs, mostly “Love Me Tender” until he fell asleep in my arms, this beautiful gift from God that brought me so much joy.

His life all in front of him, it seemed like only days before he stood before me a young man graduating high school. He would share his dreams and hopes with me (now over six foot tall) and pat me on the head, hug me and say “Bear loves the momma.”

Little did I know that in less than a month from that day, he would lay on an emergency room table, blood coming from every orifice of his body and his very life drained from that beautiful body.

Standing in a corner of an emergency treatment room as I watched his dad tell him “Daddy loves you baby boy” my heart in so much pain that I could hardly breathe. Ryan’s last words were “I know.” Then his voiced grew silent and in its’ place the voice of a doctor pronouncing time of death.

This was all preventable. No one had told me about a vaccine that could have saved him. I didn’t have a choice.

Sadly, today the voices of infants, children, teens and  adults are still being silenced by this and other horrible preventable diseases. It is time that all of us, as mothers, stand up and speak out for all the children.

We must speak out for vaccines that can prevent horrible diseases that can take the lives and the voices of our children away from us. We must help educate on these diseases such as meningococcal and pneumococcal meningitis, measles, mumps, polio, influenza, HPV, hepatitis A & B, diphtheria, tetanus, pertussis, Rubella, chicken pox, Hib and diseases that are preventable with vaccines. We must advocate for the use of the vaccines that can save lives.

This Mother’s Day, I can still hear that tiny voice saying “Sing me Elvis mommy.” I can feel little fingers moving my mouth when I did not start soon enough. I can hear a tall, beautiful young man say, The Bear loves the momma.

However the words to “Love me Tender” remind me that I will never be the parent at a wedding, I will never hold a grandchild and when Bob or I have leave this earth, we will not have the comfort of a child to hold us in our loneliness.

I believe if children had a voice and or choice they would choose vaccine over deadly disease, but they don’t! So we, the mothers have to be that voice, the voice of life, health and truth. We must protect them with all that we have and know. We must make accurately informed decisions on vaccinating against these deadly diseases.

Don’t let the music and the voices of the children be silenced. Don’t let your Mother’s Day be lost.

Love, protect and vaccinate your children.

Ryan’s mom, Frankie

Ryan with Mom

Love Me Tender

Love me tender,
love me sweet,
never let me go.
You have made my life complete,
and I love you so.

Love me tender,
love me true,
all my dreams fulfilled.
For my darlin’ I love you,
and I always will.

Love me tender,
love me long,
take me to your heart.
For it’s there that I belong,
and we’ll never part.

Love me tender,
love me dear,
tell me you are mine.
I’ll be yours through all the years,
till the end of time.

(When at last my dreams come true
Darling this I know
Happiness will follow you
Everywhere you go).


My sweet mom died with a secondary infection of Hib pneumonia. Also vaccine preventable.

1 thought on “Mother’s Day Lost

  1. Reblogged this on Shot of Prevention and commented:
    Today we highlight a new blog called Vaccines Rock, which is part of a new national campaign from Meningitis Angel’s called “Don’t Wait 2 Late 2 Vaccinate!”

    The blog will feature immunization news and information for teens and adults so that they can understand how best to protect themselves and their children from vaccine-preventable diseases. While this particular blog will address all diseases and the vaccines available to prevent them, it will have a strong focus on meningococcal and pneumococcal meningitis.

    The first post was written for Mother’s Day by Frankie, a mother who lost her son to meningococcal meningitis. Her story reminds us that although parents want to do everything possible to protect their children, they may not be fully aware of all the available vaccines that can help them to do that.

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